Mr. Perfect
Every girl has an idea of Mr. Perfect.
I can’t really say where it came from, but it is very real.
Maybe it’s a result of all those awesome Disney movies we’ve all watched and memorized as little girls or maybe it’s innate. Perhaps all little girls are made with the need to idealize a Prince Charming; a Mr. Perfect.
We imagine him running to us across the sand, his white button down shirt blowing in the wind, a cutesy little song playing in the background and we’re in the cutest summer dress and he comes and lifts us up and spins us around and-
Record scratches. Still single.
Whatever the reason, almost every girl is guilty. Whether mental or written (mine is both), there is a perfectly detailed list. It’s sub-conscious. We all deny having a list but we all do. Even you.
YES YOU.
People ask us, what do you look for in a guy and we start off “Gosh I don’t even know”…then we proceed to list everything we want in a guy. THAT right there is the list.
This list may or may not include how we want him to look, walk, smell, sound, wave, smile and a million other technicalities. Having this list does not only come with the territory of being female, but it is also encouraged. We disguise this list as our “standards”.
We consult with our little lists about the things we aspire for in males because, we shouldn’t just settle for any and anything and the dating thing becomes so much easier when we know what we’re shopping for and our mamas always said we should look for the best because we deserve the best and-
I agree. This way we weed out the guys who don’t even have a chance from our potential husbands or boyfriends.
But, is this fair to the men out there? Are we limiting ourselves?
Is it that we create a perfect guy in our heads, to the extent that we settle for no one that falls below the bar we have set? Have you ever found yourself rejecting a great guy because he didn’t meet the age or height requirement? Have we ever looked at a guy and thought, “I’d date him but, damn, my man as to be able to sing/cook/dance/or speak 5 languages/or be mixed with this or that race.”
It’s time for us to take our eye liners and pencil in the line between having standards and being harshly and unrealistically selective.
Pardon me for trampling the sweet smelling roses that taint our rose coloured glasses, but Mr. Perfect really does not exist.
Yup. I said it. He’s NOT real. That list that you have stuck in the back of your journal is just a list. It might never materialize in the form of a human being. Let’s do ourselves the biggest favours and do away with that idea of Mr. Perfect and get in the frame of mind to give a chance to all the Mr. Imperfects out there.
We women bitch day in day out about the lack of available men. But there ARE available men. He’s the guy you shut down because he was only 3 inches taller than you, he’s the guy you didn’t talk to because you didn’t like the sound of his last name attached to yours, he’s the guy you keep avoiding because he doesn’t fill numbers 15, 18 and 56 on your list.
We’re not perfect. Let’s not ask our men to be perfect either.
So keep your lists but shorten them a bit. Take out all those ridiculous physical requirements. let’s be a little more realistic.
Life’s too short to sit around waiting for perfection.